WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT FOR SOME TO SAY NO?

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT FOR SOME TO SAY NO?

Part 1

It is naturally important to know what one should say no to and what one should yes to. We should say yes to Jesus, but no to sin and to the devil. He is often hiding himself as a tempter and he wants to make the sin look so nice and tempting, making it more difficult to say no to.

I will start this theme by writing about sexual temptations. Everything is available on internet these days, and many are using that as an excuse to watch pornography for example. Some people come to me saying that they know that it is wrong, but when they are angry at their wife of sorry for something else, they use it as a way to comfort themselves. Some say that it doesn’t hurt anybody. That is not true. It hurts the person watching and quite a few partners feel they are betrayed by their husband or sometimes by their wife. God has created us with sexual desires, but it is the devil creating pornography. Some people are hiding that they are spending time on pornography, but you can’t hide it for God. Some men are telling me that they were introduced to it as children by their father, uncle or an elderly brother. They didn’t know what it was then and had not a real chance to say no, but as a young adult or an adult, they have no excuse.

The devil is happy every time you watch pornography, but the Lord gets sad. 

Pornography is sinful and you as a Christian should confess it as sin. (1.John 1:9) Since you know that it is sinful, ask God to help you to say no to the tempter. Ask the Lord to fill you with His comfort and joy if that is your need. Why do I write about this theme? Because many Christians are living in this hidden sin and quite a few are losing their intimacy with Christ.

Young people are starting to have sex in a very early age these days and many under influence of alcohol. Many young girls are saying that they didn’t dare to say no in fear of being rejected or even worse, being mobbed.

I talk to many who have been raped or being exposed to other forms of encroachments. I am rather shocked by all those being misused by their father, grandfather, uncle or a bigger brother. It has sometimes been done over a long period of time. A child might not dare to say anything in fear of punishment. The adult person might threaten the child by saying that something terrible would happen if they told anybody. Some adult victims of rape will sometimes allow it to happen in fear of being hurt or even killed. The victim is threatened to silence. It is difficult to understand the terrible fear of the victim. I can assure you that the Lord can come with both deliverance and a wonderful healing, even if it might take some time.

Many Christian women have come to me saying that their boy-friend has said that if they didn’t agree to sex, they would not marry them. The boy-friend might even accuse her of not loving him. This is manipulation. If he manipulates you before you get married, he will probably do it even more in marriage. I would not recommend you to marry him then.

Some nurseries are smart enough to teach the children that their bodies belong to them and no one else. Not even an adult can do what they want with their bodies. Some children do not understand what happens to them if an adult is touching them in an inappropriate way. They might have been tempted with chocolate or some other goodies. Children need to learn to say no and encourages to tell a trustworthy person if somebody has treated them wrongly.

I am often asked what kind of sex that is allowed within marriage. I have not received a revelation about that, but I am sure that both partners must agree on what they want. If one part wants something that the other doesn’t, it could easily feel like encroachment. Be clear and honest with each other.

There are countries in the world where the women are looked upon as a victim of a man’s desire, but women are not created by God to be a victim. She is nothing to be used but loved.

Some boys have also been misused by men, and they also need to learn to say no and to put up boundaries for themselves. Some of these men seem to have greater feelings of guilt than women.

We read in 1.Corinthians 3:16 that we are God’s temple. A temple is holy, and it is something we treat with respect. Do not allow anybody to make the temple dirty. Some temples are in need of a real washing.

The Bible is making it clear that sex is supposed to be practised within marriage. This should be taught in churches and where young people are gathering.

I will write about other things within the same theme next time.

KEEP THE TEMPLE PURE AND CLEAN!

 

Mother Else